Please note that as a part of reorganising my blog, the essay “Starting out: SL Domination” can now be found under the “D/s Essays” section of my primary blog, as per the links below:
Please refer to these links for further information. Thank you.
Devices and Desires
D/s in the virtual Domain
Devices and Desires 
IMO you are or are not a dominant (I know I definitely am not). That said, how to ACT like one can be learned, but being one can not.
So you can learn how to behave, but if your heart isn’t in it it shows and feels bad.
It’s the same with subs btw. You can learn to kneel at a person’s feet and use the proper phrases to address them, but if you’re not submissive already it’s hollow, play.
For many that play may be all they seek, but for those seeking a serious D/s relation (and there are many in SL) it isn’t enough.