The nature of domination

Please note that as a part of reorganising my blog, the essay “The nature of domination” can now be found under the “D/s Essays” section of my primary blog, as per the links below:

Please refer to these links for further information. Thank you.

6 thoughts on “The nature of domination

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  2. Darrius Gothly

    Not sure why this popped up as “New” activity, but I’m glad it did. I’ve long hoped that you would bring your wisdom and clarity back to the D/s blogosphere. (And yes, that’s a subtle nudge. *wink wink*)

    I have always characterized the duties of a good Dominant as akin to proper potting soil, a solid wood stake, and a well-anchored wind fence around a precious rose plant. The Dominant brings nourishment, stability, and protection from outside attacks to the beauty of the submissive. If the soil is too barren, if the wood stake is too shallow, if the fence is too flimsy then the submissive will suffer, falter and may very well “perish” (fall out of the relationship). The particulars of each attribute will vary from Dom to Dom, but their absence or the wrong proportions for the submissive’s situation will without exception result in hurt feelings and an eventual failing that serves neither party in the end.

    Well written post Inara. I hope you can find the time and desire to revive this facet of your writings .. and life again.

    1. Inara Pey Post author

      Hi Darrius

      I’m a little mystified myself as to why this is coming up as “new” anywhere. It surprised me that after more than a year being untouched by me, the site started registering rather a lot (for it, at least) hits over the course of the weekend. I’m not sure what has happened, other than perhaps WordPress throwing another wobbly, although why this should be, I’ve no idea.

      Thanks for the feedback, kind words – and the nudge :). I agree with your view on the Dominant’s role. However, I very much doubt this blog will see any kind of revival. I’m no longer involved in the scene in RL – haven’t been for a good number of years now; and in SL terms, my interests have moved on; so much so that I never actually finished porting all my old essays to this blog.

      I’m actually considering shunting the more relevant pieces I’ve written over to a sub-category in my personal links on Modemworld. But other than doing that, I’m afraid this blog is all but defunct; I’ll more than likely shut it down rather than have anything else go bump.

  3. Lawrence Grodecki

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    Love, that eternal mystery, and shouldn’t it always be that way?

    For me that is a rhetorical question, because I know the answer, and in many ways. Does that make me an expert in love? Of course not, what a horrible claim that would be . . . in a way dishonorable to the divine and the sublime.

    Perhaps it is what some may call a hobby, but for me it is more like a way of life . . . the search for it (love) in most of what I see . . . and I’ve seen so much of it in so many ways. Some that know me (or think they do) would scoff at every word I’m writing here, but I can’t control that, have no need to, and simply dismiss the scoffing as irrelevant. That doesn’t make me arrogant, but more like frustrated. There’s so much I’ve come to know, but it seems the price of this knowledge is an almost solitary confinement in the knowing.

    Perhaps the painting and the writing are an escape from this solitude? It sometimes feels that way. More than that though, there is this smoldering desire, “true art is characterized by an irresistible urge in the creative artist,” as Einstein put it.

    Many readers may find these words vaguely written, and that’s understandable. What I’m reblogging here might also be construed as vague, and yet there is so much beauty in the mystery of it all. I neither condone nor dismiss any of its content, but somehow I do find it easy to understand, as it is ultimately one more way to search and find love, and oddly enough, it seems to describe a creative process.

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